I’m 33, black, single and childfree by choice. I’m a black unicorn because this is rarity to many people. At the moment I’m childfree and not trying to get pregnant. This saddens some people. It’s almost like they wait to say “You’re wasting good eggs.” Now I’ve always thought to myself if I had kids they’d be wicked awesome and cute as Hell. Whether or not they’d be well behaved I hope so. I’m not much for yelling but maybe spanking but I don’t kids change everything. I’m currently not in relationship and I’m trying to avoid booty calls and FWBs. Those suck in the end. I’m worth more than that. I tend to wear jeans, t-shirts, shorts or maxi dresses. I have curves and I hope that I don’t give off a desperate vibe but being childfree woman makes you a hot commodity in the dating world but again I currently live the rents so yeah good luck for me.
I think the idea of being in love is great but it’s hard. I mean I must meet a man who loves me for me and I must be attracted to him as well. Okay sounds easy enough but somehow I’m supposed to not give up my cookies within two dates, no hard since I pretty much know what vibe I get from a guy after two meetings. How would I even know if some guy loves me back? Seriously I’m crappy with signs so I don’t know. I’ve never had a Valentine. I don’t put out fast enough and if a that’s all a guy wants from me than he’s not worth my time. Being lonely sucks but I’m making new friends. I’m not going to settle for the first guy that shows super interest in me as a person. If here one more person say “Don’t you want kids?”, “Don’t you wanna get married because men don’t want you after 33?”. Thanks for the encouraging words people.
I would love to get married but I’m not gonna trap some guy by getting pregnant or settling for some guy who feels bad for me. I don’t like it when guys try to mack on a woman. I’m sorry I have boundaries and in the words of Sting “Don’t stand so close to me.” I’ve had internet blind dates who tried to hug me on the first date and I was pretty cold because I’m not a hugger. If I’m attracted to a guy it’s obvious because I can’t hide it. Hint I’ll smile way too much and I suffer from resting bitchface.
I’m not against love or marriage but I know me and I want a man who wants to know me as well and not just get my panties. I want someone where he won’t be all weird about me meeting his parents and I won’t be weird about him meeting mine. I don’t want to be asked a thousand times why I’m not married. Because I’m a weird ass chick looking for a cute, tallish pale guy who’s a little weird but normal. I want a guy who people will look us and say “Look there’s someone out there for everyone.” Because I believe he’s out there and I can wait to meet him. I’ve just learned how to love me and I’m not gonna try to make the world love me.